Shadow work explained: Benefits, Do’s & Dont’s

Aeron Lazar

In the realm of human existence and spiritual practice, few concepts hold as much transformative potential as shadow work. Shadow work is like a deep dive into our inner world, a journey into the parts of ourselves we might not often explore. 

Getting into shadow work is like diving headfirst into one of the most challenging but ultimately transformative journeys on the spiritual path. It’s not for the faint of heart because it often means facing up to the heavy stuff – old wounds, heartaches, and experiences that have left a mark. It’s totally understandable that not everyone takes this plunge. After all, looking into those shadows takes guts, vulnerability, and a willingness to confront parts of ourselves we’d rather keep tucked away. Yet, it’s precisely through this courageous act that real change and healing can blossom. 

In this article, we’re going to break down what shadow work is all about, how to do shadow work, why it matters, and the incredible rewards it offers to those willing to take the plunge. Plus, we’ll give you some practical tools to navigate this terrain, propelling you toward a journey of accelerated spiritual growth and abundance. 

What Is Shadow Work? 

Shadow work meaning can be essentially summarized into four words: unearthing wounds and traumas. It involves revisiting experiences we’ve had within this lifetime that have left an indelible mark on our being. Think about it – the countless situations that have stung, that have lingered in our memories, filling pages upon pages of our personal history. From childhood to the present day, we all carry these imprints. The essence of shadow work lies in re-examining these painful chapters, and summoning the bravery to confront them once more. It’s about embracing the mantra: “Feeling is healing.” 

By navigating these shadowed corridors of our past, we transcend the emotions that have taken residence within us, freeing them from the confines of our physical form.

Now, it’s crucial to understand that shadow work isn’t solely about healing the physical body, although it often has a profound impact on our overall well-being. Its primary focus is on emotional healing and liberation. In today’s world, too many of us carry unseen wounds, festering and ready to react at the slightest touch. We become the walking wounded, hypersensitive to the world around us. A gentle tap on our metaphorical sore spots can trigger an eruption of emotion – anger, hurt, offense, and indignation. It’s an overreaction that stems from the unhealed wounds we carry. Perhaps you’ve witnessed it in others, that disproportionate response to a seemingly innocuous comment or action.

For example, I once asked a simple question with an associate about the timeline for completing a project, and the response I received was far beyond what the situation warranted. This is a prime example of the wounds we carry, ready to flare up at the slightest provocation. These triggers, uncomfortable as they may be, serve as signposts pointing to the areas within us that need healing. They provide valuable insight into the unaddressed aspects of ourselves, waiting to be acknowledged and transformed through the practice of shadow work. So, if you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, why certain situations leave you feeling raw and exposed, it’s likely a signal that there’s healing work to be done within.

There might not be one, standard shadow work definition out there, but in its very essence, it involves a lot of reviewing of past traumas, figuring out how it connects to your present blockages, and choosing ways on how to start doing shadow work.

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Benefits of Shadow Work

Perhaps the most common shadow work question I get from people is, “What’s in it for me?” For so many years of assisting clients on how to do shadow work to heal, I’ve been able to identify some of the most common improvements in their spiritual, emotional, psychological, and physical well-being. Here are some benefits of shadow work:

  1. Emotional Healing and Liberation

Shadow work offers a pathway to emotional healing and liberation. By confronting and transcending the emotions associated with past pain and trauma, individuals can free themselves from the lingering effects of these experiences.

  1. Increased Frequency Signature

Engaging in shadow work naturally leads to an increase in one’s frequency signature. This suggests a positive shift in one’s energetic or spiritual state, indicative of personal growth and transformation.

  1. Greater Sensitivity and Awareness

Through shadow work, individuals become more attuned to their own sensitivities and triggers. This heightened awareness allows for a deeper understanding of oneself and the ability to navigate emotions more effectively.

  1. Release of Stored Trauma

Pain and trauma are stored as frequencies within the organs of the body. Shadow work provides a means to release these stored emotions, liberating the body from their lingering impact.

  1. Reduction of Overreactions

For those who may be walking wounded, prone to overreacting to triggers, shadow work can lead to a reduction in these exaggerated emotional responses. It allows for a more balanced and centered approach to challenging situations.

  1. Greater Resilience and Neutrality

Shadow work empowers individuals to face difficult situations with greater resilience and neutrality. Rather than being excessively affected by external circumstances, they are better equipped to navigate challenges from a place of inner strength.

  1. Unearthing Unhealed Aspects

The practice of shadow work brings to light unhealed aspects of oneself. Triggers serve as valuable clues, indicating areas that require attention and healing.

  1. Transcendence of Limiting Beliefs

By delving into the shadows, individuals can uncover and transcend limiting beliefs that may have been formed as a result of past experiences. This opens up new possibilities for personal growth and self-realization.

  1. Improved Relationships

As individuals engage in shadow work and address their own wounds, they often experience an improvement in their relationships. Greater self-awareness and emotional balance can lead to more fulfilling connections with others.

  1. Alignment with Higher Self

Shadow work aligns individuals with their higher selves, allowing them to operate from a place of authenticity and inner truth. This alignment fosters a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment in life.

Dangers of Shadow Work

Is shadow work dangerous?” is a question a prospective client or two have asked me before. In my years of experience doing shadow work, there are little to no negative side effects to this transformative spiritual process. However, one of the most challenging phases when you’re doing shadow work therapy is what I like to call “The Purge.”

“The Purge” is a powerful emotional release that occurs during the process of shadow work. It represents a condensed timeline of healing, where suppressed emotions and unresolved traumas come to the surface. This cathartic experience can be triggered, sometimes almost immediately after a shadow work session or over the course of days or even weeks after it. It’s like a surge of energy rising, often emanating from the chest, head, or throat. Each person’s experience of it is unique, and driven by their personal traumas, ancestral history, and karmic imprints. 

Everyone’s energy field reacts differently but once “The Purge” starts, what will happen is over a period of days or weeks, pain frequency would start to leave a person’s energetic field, thereby causing a host of physical, mental or emotional turbulence. This can manifest through sleepless nights, panic attacks, depression, suddenly falling sick or feeling fatigued, etc.

Remember that this is part of the shadow work process, and will eventually die down or improve in days or so. It’s also important to note that shadow work is not linear, and that sometimes, we tend to “back slide” and lose a bit of our progress, depending on the kind and degree of trauma that needs healing. 

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How To Do Shadow Work And How To Practice It

To be completely honest, there is no one-size-fits all approach to shadow work. Some people find that talking to someone about their traumas is a form of working on their shadow selves. Some people turn to plant medicine or going on spiritual retreat to go deeper into those darker corners of their soul.

In my spiritual practice, I’ve found two effective approaches to embarking on this healing journey: the Traditional Analog Method, and the Modern Quantum Approach

The Traditional Analog Method is like playing a tape cassette or vinyl. It often involves journaling, self-reflection, and perhaps even seeking guidance from a trusted friend or therapist. Imagine it like sitting down with a pen and paper, scribbling down your thoughts and feelings, and really taking the time to unravel the layers of your subconscious. It’s a grounded, practical approach that allows you to work through your shadow aspects in a hands-on, tangible way, much like listening to the rich, warm sound of a vinyl record on a turntable. This method respects the power of reflection and introspection, valuing the depth of understanding that comes from taking the time to really dive into your inner world.

On the other hand, the Modern Quantum Approach uses advanced spiritual tools and technologies. Instead of pen and paper, think of it like streaming music from Spotify, Apple Music or using the internet for a more efficient and powerful experience. This approach leverages advanced methods and resources to help you access and process your buried emotions and unresolved issues. It’s like having a high-tech, user-friendly interface that allows you to navigate your inner landscape with precision and effectiveness. Imagine it as using a smartphone with all its apps and capabilities to make the process smoother and more impactful. This approach uses Galactic Frequencies – such as the Arcturian, Pleiadian or Sirian coded transmissions – in accelerating the healing and growth process, making it a dynamic and forward-looking way to engage with your shadow self.

Regardless of the method chosen, introspection is essential and unavoidable, as anyone embarking on this healing journey confronts their shadow selves. It’s important to note that this process is not about perpetually revisiting the pain, but rather a one-time deep dive into healing. This stands in contrast to mainstream psychology, where extended therapy sessions are common.

The journey of shadow work is non-linear, guided by the natural unfolding of one’s energetic field, prioritizing the release of heavier emotional burdens before progressing towards lighter, more manageable layers. The ultimate prize of this journey is a sense of freedom, happiness, enlightenment, and a deeper love for oneself and the world. While full healing may not be entirely attainable, this transformative process allows individuals to bounce back to emotional neutrality more swiftly, acknowledging their human nature and embracing the capacity for emotional resilience.

Shadow Work for Beginners – Tips for Starting

So now that we’ve covered the basics about how to do shadow work, it’s time to get into the specifics of how to do shadow work for beginners.

As previously discussed, you can opt to do the traditional “analog” method of keeping a shadow work journal, writing anything that comes to mind about a specific traumatic experience or trigger you might have until you can’t think of anything to write anymore. 

Basically, the Analog Traditional Method is can be simplified through the following step-by-step guide:

  1. Journaling

Begin by journaling about situations and experiences that have caused you pain or trauma. Write until you feel like you’ve remembered everything.

  • Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and enter a meditative state.
  • When you feel ready, revisit the situations you’ve journaled about in your mind.
  • Visualize the person or situation that caused you pain standing in front of you.
  • Let it out. Express everything you never got to say to that person. Do not over-rationalize whatever comes to mind, and just let it all out. You can do this internally if you prefer.
  • Think of this as a monologue, so don’t mind what that person or situation might say to you in response. They do not have a say in this process. They are just there to listen to whatever you have to say.
  • Remember, this process is about being heard and healing. You’re not seeking a conversation; it’s a monologue from you.
  1. Healing Process Continued

  • If a situation involves a long-standing relationship or deep trauma, you might find it beneficial to write pages about it. This can be done in addition to or instead of the meditative approach.
  • Don’t worry if you feel like you have nothing to say yet about the matter. Just start writing down anything that comes to mind.
  • Write down what happened in detail. Write down what you felt at that moment. Write down what you wish you had said or what you wish had happened. Write anything and everything that comes to you, as you revisit that old wound or see the person who cause all that pain.
  • When you have nothing to write anymore, and you feel like you’ve practically exhausted every thought you have about that person or situation, consider burning or ceremonially destroying what you’ve written. This symbolic act helps release negative emotions.
  1. One and Done

Understand that this healing process is meant to be a one-time deep dive. Once you’ve properly addressed a situation, you don’t need to revisit it repeatedly. Think of it like cleaning a wound – once it’s clean, you let it heal.

On the other hand, if you want to try a non-conventional, and speedier shadow work method, you might want to consider the Modern Quantum Approach. Essentially, the Modern Quantum Approach largely involves connecting with Galactic Beings for healing. It’s a more accelerated method and requires attunement or guidance from someone experienced in this practice, like a Light Language Expert or Galactic Energy Channel.

While it’s hard to explain how the process is done, the Modern Quantum Approach basically requires the following:

  • Connect to the Collective Consciousness grid of the specific Galactic race you resonate with.
  • Program the healing frequency with specific aspects of your shadows that you want to work through.
  • Understand what you’re trying to heal before connecting to the Galactic grid. This specificity is crucial for effective healing.

Each Galactic Energy Expert may have a different approach when it comes to the Modern Quantum Method or connecting with Light Beings. For my part, the process can be generally broken down to the following steps:

  1. Prepare and Ground Yourself

   – Find a quiet and comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed.

   – Take a few deep breaths to center yourself and establish a sense of calm.

  1. Get Into Meditative State

   – Close your eyes and enter a meditative state. This can be achieved through deep breathing, visualization, or any technique that helps you relax.

  1. Access Galactic Frequencies

   – If you’ve been attuned to Galactic frequencies or received guidance on how to do so, now is the time to connect. You may also seek the assistance of someone experienced in this practice.

  1. Programming the Healing Frequency

   – Focus on the specific aspects of your shadows that you want to work through. This step is crucial for effective healing.

– You can incorporate healing Light Language codes during this process.

  1. Transmitting the Frequency

   – With your connection to Galactic frequencies established, allow yourself to channel the codes either just with your intention or in a form of Light Language. Light languages are a form of non-linear communication that bypasses the analytical mind and penetrate into your energetic field, potentially recalibrating patterns and gridwork that are hindering you from having a successful healing process.

  1. Gratitude and Closure

 – – Express gratitude to the Galactic Beings, your support system, and yourself for engaging in this powerful healing process. When you feel ready, slowly return to your regular state of consciousness. Ground yourself through activities like deep breathing, gentle movement, or spending time in nature.

  1. Release

   – Take some time to allow the emotions and memories to surface over the coming hours and days.. Observe any unusual insights, emotions, or shifts in energy.

The Most Effective Shadow Work Prompts 

As previously mentioned, much of shadow work going inward, reflecting on your life experiences, and identifying traumas that are hindering you from living in your soul’s true essence. As you begin this journey of self-reflection, and self-discovery, here are some of the most effective shadow work prompts you can ask yourself as part of the process:

For Emotional Awareness:

  • “What emotions am I currently feeling? Can I name them and acknowledge their presence without judgment?”
  • “Are there any specific situations or triggers that have brought up these emotions?”
  • “How do these emotions manifest physically in my body? (e.g., tension, tightness, heaviness)”
  • “Have I felt this way before in similar situations? If so, when and why?”

For Figuring Out Root Causes of Your Triggers:

  • “Can I trace back the origin of these feelings or patterns in my life? Is there a specific event or experience that may have contributed to them?”
  • “Are there any childhood memories or early experiences that resonate with my current emotions?”
  • “Have I inherited any emotional patterns or behaviors from my family or ancestors?”

For Self-Compassion and Acceptance:

  • “Can I offer myself the same compassion and understanding that I would give to a friend in a similar situation?”
  • “Am I willing to accept and embrace all parts of myself, including the ones that feel wounded or vulnerable?”
  • “What self-care practices can I implement to nurture and support myself during this healing process?”

For Beliefs and Perceptions:

  • “Am I holding onto any limiting beliefs about myself, others, or the world? How do these beliefs impact my emotions and behaviors?”
  • “Are there any negative self-talk patterns that I can identify? How can I reframe these thoughts in a more positive and empowering way?”
  • “What are some affirmations or mantras that resonate with me and can help shift my perspective?”

For Forgiveness and Letting Go:

  • “Is there anyone, including myself, that I need to forgive in order to move forward? What steps can I take towards forgiveness?”
  • “What attachments or resentment am I holding onto that are hindering my healing process? How can I release them?”
  • “Can I visualize a future where I am free from the weight of these emotions? How would it feel to let go completely?”

For Self-Expression and Creativity:

  • “Are there creative outlets or activities that allow me to express and process my emotions? (e.g., journaling, painting, dancing)”
  • “How can I incorporate more self-expression into my daily life as a means of healing?”
  • “What forms of creative expression resonate with me the most?”

Remember, the key to effective self-reflection is to approach it with an open heart and without judgment. These prompts are meant to guide you, but feel free to adapt them or come up with your own that feel most relevant to your unique healing journey. Trust yourself and be patient with the process.

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How To Do Shadow Work On Yourself? 

Shadow work is a deeply personal and introspective process aimed at exploring and integrating the unconscious aspects of yourself. Here are a few shadow work exercises and practices you can use while on this journey:

  1. Create a Safe and Sacred Space:

In shadow work, it’s crucial to make a safe space for yourself where you can freely express your feelings without judgment. This means letting go of any self-criticism that might come up when you experience strong emotions. Remember, every emotion you feel is valid and has a purpose in your healing journey. Being kind to yourself in this way allows you to be real and true to yourself. It creates an environment of trust and self-acceptance, making it easier to dive into the deeper parts of your psyche. So, give yourself permission to feel, without holding back, and watch as it leads to powerful growth and transformation.

  1. Meditation, Self-Reflection and Journaling:

Meditation, self-reflection, and journaling make a huge impact when you incorporate it in your shadow work routine. Self-reflection allows us to delve into the depths of our emotions and experiences, creating a bridge to our innermost selves. Through meditation, we find a sanctuary of stillness where we can observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment. It’s a sacred space where revelations often emerge, guiding us towards understanding and healing. Journaling becomes the canvas upon which we paint our inner landscape, translating thoughts and emotions into tangible words. It provides a concrete record of our journey, a testament to our growth and transformation. Together, these practices form a powerful trinity, nurturing the soil from which our inner strength and self-awareness can blossom.

  1. Identify Your Shadows

 Acknowledging and confronting these shadows may initially feel daunting, yet it is a courageous act of self-compassion. By shining a light on these hidden corners of our being, we open the door to profound transformation and growth. Embracing our shadows allows us to reclaim lost fragments of ourselves and integrate them into our whole being. It is in this alchemical process that we find a newfound sense of wholeness, inner peace, and authenticity. Ultimately, facing our shadows is an act of self-love, paving the way for a more liberated, empowered, and fulfilled life.”

  1. Trace Back to Your Shadows’ Origins

Delving into shadows’ origins is like going on a journey, seeking out the moments that shaped us. These moments can be tucked away, covered by time and the things we’ve learned along the way. It takes time and a gentle touch to uncover them, and as we do, we might face old hurts and vulnerabilities. But with each discovery, there’s a chance for healing and setting ourselves free. When we understand where our shadows come from, we learn more about ourselves and the beliefs we’ve held onto. This kind of exploration gives us the ability to change our stories, paving the way for a future filled with self-awareness, kindness, and inner strength.

  1. Engage in Inner Dialogue

Cultivating a compassionate and understanding conversation with ourselves is also a great way to do shadow work. This internal exchange allows us to navigate through the layers of our subconscious with grace and sensitivity. Listen attentively to your emotions, fears, and vulnerabilities. This heightened self-awareness becomes a powerful tool in deciphering our shadows and ultimately leads us towards profound healing and self-acceptance. So, while the process may be challenging, refining our inner conversation is an invaluable asset on this transformative journey of self-discovery.


Shadow work often means delving into the depths of past traumas, a process that can be undeniably painful. However, it’s crucial to remember that this discomfort is a necessary part of the journey towards healing and self-discovery. By bravely confronting these buried wounds, we unearth the keys to our own liberation. 

As we unearth and nurture these hidden aspects within us, our inner world begins to flourish. This process allows our soul to grow, expanding our awareness and bringing us closer to our true purpose. It’s through this introspective journey that we gain the clarity and insight needed to walk our unique path with confidence. Embracing our shadows isn’t just about healing; it’s a powerful force for personal growth, leading us towards a life filled with purpose, authenticity, and contentment.

The ultimate reward is a newfound sense of freedom, self-acceptance, and a deeper connection to our true selves. The pain of revisiting is temporary, but the transformation it brings is enduring and well worth the effort.

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Aeron Lazar

Spiritual Guide & Multidimensional Psychic

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